1. Become friends’ first, good friends if possible. Being sexually attracted to this person you are interested in is unavoidable, but make sure you do not put yourself in a position where you become more physical with a person than emotionally connected. Keep the two balanced to know you both are on the same track.
2. Slow. Things. Down
3. Watch/listen. Take in all the person is, and do not build a fairy tale around someone who is seemingly perfect. Recognize flaws and determine if this person's positive attributes out weigh the negative components. Moreover, decide if their traits suit you and your desires or if they compromise you
4. Express yourself openly. See how you feel after a few times of opening up to them. They might not truly understand you; this is a very bad sign. If they do understand you, then this is a fantastic sign. Proper communication is central to an amicable relationship.
5. This ties into number four. Now, talk about everything. Do not shy away from intimate or unconventional topics. This includes, but is not excluded to: sexual expectations, family history, traumatic events, strange/embarrassing fears, bodily functions, your relationships expectations, etc.
6. This is only the "falling in love" stage, and I only aim to make it a joyful experience. Real, lasting love is a different story. Even following these steps, a relationship will fall apart (although most likely in an amicable manner). Watch for the next article for perpetuating a relationship.
Warnings:
- Do not try too hard to make it work in the beginning if it simply will not work in the beginning. You will save yourself more heartache then you can even imagine.
- "Falling in love" feelings have a typical lifespan of about six months to a year. If the two people have not mutually thrown emotional anchors in each other, then the relationship will dwindle.
- Never lie. Ever. Never lie and never cheat
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