If you are playing the role of mother, daughter, daughter-in-law, sister and wife, you will understand that these multiple roles can be very complex and challenging.
These are five Life skills that can help you to overcome these challenging roles in the 21st century.
1) Learn to communicate and express your feelings
2) Learn to set boundaries
3) Learn to say "No".
4) Learn to love yourself
5) Learn to let go
Communication and Self-expression
To do a good job of communicating your feelings, it is imperative to first listen. Accept other people's point of view. Check whether you have the time or ability to do the job, or project or errands or to help someone. Explain why you cannot do it and how you feel about doing or not doing it. You will gain respect from your self-expression.
Learn to set boundaries
People do not know what you are thinking, nor your lifestyle or whether you have the time or able to do something. It is your responsibility to set boundaries of how much time you wish to spend with a friend who call you up for coffee. Another example, could be a relative who wants you to accompany him or her to go somewhere that you have no business to be there.
Learn to say "No"
You teach people to treat you. If you think saying "Yes" when you mean to say "No" is easier, deep inside you, you will be eating yourself inside out! After a while, you are really teaching people to treat you and they assume you don't mind. Is it their fault that you feel miserable? They are not mind-reader. It's your responsibility to express yourself truthfully.
Learn to love yourself
By loving yourself I mean being aware of your mental, physical, emotional and spiritual well being. It's not being self-centred. It's self care. If you can't take care of yourself, how balance can you be? How can you look after others? How can you be a role model?
Learn to let go
Many people I know are very hard on themselves. Being perfect is so important to them that they cannot take failure as a form of feedback. If you think being a perfect mother, daughter, daughter-in-law, sister and wife are very important roles, you will find yourself being torn apart and overwhelmed. Chances are you will feel very angry, guilty, and frustrated.
Letting go of playing perfect roles is the first step to accepting yourself as who you are, whole and complete. It is liberating.
To shift the mindset of people to develop self-leadership in life through self-love. To connect parents and teens to inspire each other to live life purposefully.
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